State Manager deep linking in flash- AS2

I'M IN NEED OF GREAT HELP!

I'm in the process of making a new version of my company's website and im going 100% flash and I am wanting deep linking. So today I placed state manager into it and played around with it. So far I have a main swf with the navigation and the state manager action script. each state loads external swfs into the main one. I only have the main swf and the about one done so far, im just trying to get this navigation to work. I am needing help ASAP so I have included both just the main swf FLA file and a zipped up file of the whole folder.

Here are some things I found out or have problems with for:
1.I made my buttons with a movie clip and the rollovers and release animations worked great until I added the state manager actionscript - the release animation is messed up now.
2. Also when i was on the about page, if you click the action button twice, that page reloads. Is there some way to prevent this? So that when your on that particular page/state, the button for it is inactive?
3. I then uploaded everything to the server and i wasn't able to go to the about page at all. I really don't know what happened. I mean, no file locations are different.
4. Something I wondered. Say an external swf loads and has buttons that on release need to go to a state in the main swf's timeline. How would I go about that?

That's about it, hope it makes sense. I have aim too. My sn is brettbash and I'm on it most of the time. Any help is appreciated.

Here is the link to the main fla: bashperformance.com/Home%20Page/New/Home/main2.fla

url to the index.html on the server: bashperformance.com/Home%20Page/New/index.html

Link to the zip file of the folder and content: bashperformance.com/new.zip

If someone can help me solve this soon, I can compensate them for their help with like paypal.

brettbash...did you ever get this working? I'm in need of similar help and perhaps you could help me. I'd be very grateful. Thanks.

never tried deeplinking.
Did you try using SwfAddress?
Didn't try that either but might be useful.