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Well i am 16 and me and my girlfriend planned this. So its not a mistake. Thought i would share with you guys becuase i am very happy.

Also i know a lot of people will say that i wont be a good dad becuase i am 16 but i will be.

i am very happy :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Congrats. A little too late to warn you about being too young. Regardless, if you're both happy and ready then my best to you!
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Thanks ATNO/TW yes we are both happy. And we also have made sure we have more than enough money to support the baby
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Good luck to you, sir! You'll never love anyone like your own children. They are a never-ending source of joy.
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I take it you have children then DM?
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Thanks ATNO/TW yes we are both happy. And we also have made sure we have more than enough money to support the baby


Good luck and congrats on your new journey! :wink:

Regarding that you have more than enough money hehe believe me, there'll never be enough... you'll see :lol:
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Well yeah you know what i mean. Enought to make sure we can support it
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I take it you have children then DM?


Yes sir! A 5 y.o. and a soon-to-be 8 y.o. :)

btw: You can win a lot of photo comps with your kids too! :P
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I take it you have children then DM?


Yes sir! A 5 y.o. and a soon-to-be 8 y.o. :)

btw: You can win a lot of photo comps with your kids too! :P


Haha thanks and ill keep that in mind.
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If you were my kid I would beat you senseless and your girlfriend.

In my humble opinion, 16 is way too young to make that kind of decision. You have absolutely no idea what you are getting yourself into. My mom had me at 15 and the road she traveled was not easy and life was difficult.

With that said, I wish you the best of luck and hopefully you don't become another statistic.
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Thanks Grinch. And know we wont be like that. We did actually Plan it and it did not happen by mistake.
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Thanks Grinch. And know we wont be like that. We did actually Plan it and it did not happen by mistake.


Out of curiosity, what do your parents think?
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Well i told them that we planned it. And they said that they think i am very young, But they will support me with what i choose to do. Also my girlfriends parents said the same thing. Both families are willing to support us which is a good thing.
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Very cool! You know, my parents were 16 and 17 when they first met, my mom on one side of the state, my dad on the other, and exactly one week after my mom graduated high school my parents got married. Everyone said it wouldn't last because they were so young and everything, but now 26 years later, they've got a 26 year old daughter and a 21 year old son (my sister and me) and are still happily married. So it is possible to be a teenager and a parent and make it work very well. Good luck!
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Thanks, And wow thats a great story there dude. I dont think we will get married just yet, But who knows
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If you were my kid I would beat you senseless and your girlfriend.

In my humble opinion, 16 is way too young to make that kind of decision. You have absolutely no idea what you are getting yourself into. My mom had me at 15 and the road she traveled was not easy and life was difficult.

With that said, I wish you the best of luck and hopefully you don't become another statistic.


Hope you luck... Have you thought and considered how you will not be able to be yourself while the child is very young and requires a lot of attention... mind you :lol: I don't have a baby yet, but I can imaging that it would be a very difficult journey and maybe a decision that you would later regret... you would not be able to travel... you would not be able to play with your friends hence you may loose them... just my thoughts on this but good luck with your decision :D Since your happy I guess I don't mind :)
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Play with my friends? i am 16 not a little kid? I have far more important things to do than "PLAY WITH FRIENDS"

But yes i well we have both thought about these things. But it is a rewarding thing also.
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"Play with friends" :lol: So you hate sports? Football? Soccer?... anyway... I was just throwing things for you to think about if you haven't :D
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Ok fair point i play football, and i go motorbike racing.
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Ok fair point i play football, and i go motorbike racing.


Say goodbye to those things.
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I will find away to still do motorbiking trust me.
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I will find away to still do motorbiking trust me.


Okay... one thing... don't neglect your baby.
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I don't have a kid or anything like that, but my dog is like a son to me ... Me and my sister also planned having the dog, my mother told me that it would be a big responsibility, but I took the chance and I would never regret it ... not quite the same, but it's a cool story none the less ... Wish you the best of luck!
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Alot of the people I grew up with had a baby at about your age, ALL of them started selling drugs to support the baby.

What you two did is *plum*, you were not considerate of anyone around you when you "planned this". You're 16, there's alot of things you can't do legally. You have no idea the burden you're about to put on everyone around you.

On the bright side, the same people I grew up with who had kids young, are pretty strong people these days.
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I don't have a kid or anything like that, but my dog is like a son to me ... Me and my sister also planned having the dog, my mother told me that it would be a big responsibility, but I took the chance and I would never regret it ... not quite the same, but it's a cool story none the less ... Wish you the best of luck!


you're comparing this mans child to your pet dog :?: :shock: :!:

**falls off his chair laughing** :lol: :wink:

I wish you all the best :D although I'm secretly saddened :(
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Well i am 16 and me and my girlfriend planned this. So its not a mistake. Thought i would share with you guys becuase i am very happy.

Also i know a lot of people will say that i wont be a good dad becuase i am 16 but i will be.

i am very happy :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Hey, the wife and I just found out that she's pregnant with our 2nd, so it looks like we'll have kids almost exactly the same age :o

Anyway, congrats and good luck!
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Hey, the wife and I just found out that she's pregnant with our 2nd...


:handsup: Yay jameson!
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:lol: Congratz to both of you :lol:
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:handsup: Yay jameson!

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:lol: Congratz to both of you :lol:


thanks guys!
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Congratulations!

I was almost 19 and my (ex) 17 when we had our first child, he is now almost 6, and I have a almost 3 year old too. They are the best thing in the world, and although everyone can tell you every horror story in the book, everyone is different, and we do not know you, so we have no right to tell you what you done is stupid. I was told I was stupid, and too young etc, and I took it with a grain of salt. Although I could have chosen a better father, I still love my boys with all my heart and they have everything they could ever want.

Don't listen to anyone, although I do recomend you take your Mothers advice when she gives it about the new baby! :)
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...although I do recomend you take your Mothers advice when she gives it about the new baby! :)


I'm sure she had experience :D :lol:
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btw: You can win a lot of photo comps with your kids too! :P


I'll say! :roll:

Regarding the pregnancy, if you don't mind me expressing my opinion a little. I seriously hope you realise what's to be expected from this, i mean if you leave your girlfriend or vice versa and the baby is still young just think about how this is going to affect the child later on.

To be 16 years old and make that sort of decision is pretty young and in it's own right immature. I'm 22 and can't see myself starting a family yet as there is still plenty time, just think about all the things you will miss out on to sacrifice the birth of your child. I reckon you just need to live a bit before you can go out and have children.

That doesn't mean i don't wish you the best though. I hope everything does work out brilliantly and you are all together for many years to come.
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Thanks guys. Well yeah i am young to have a baby. But on the bright side when my baby is 16 i will only be 32.
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Is that really such a good thing?
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Well yeah becuase i myself will not really be that old will i ?
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You may think it is a great idea now. By the time you get to your mid twenty's and everyone is going out and enjoying themselves, you have to stay in doors... I promise you it won't be very fun.

I'm 21 and I would love a kid, however I want to get married and actually enjoy being in my prime before I get weighed down with a massive amount of responsibility.

I should probably point out as well that young relationships are fickle things.

I would definitely recommend that you put yourself through university before you knock someone up. Why would you want to bring a kid into the world when you only have a paltry laborers salary? Far better to be on 25k+ a year and actually have some comforts in life.

Furthermore the general process of having a kid is the following.

Get girlfriend - Duh
Marry Girlfriend - Relationship security
Purchase/Rent house/flat - First major responsibility, proves you can pay bills regularly, proves you can survive by yourself. Actually gives you a place to bring up the kid.

Get Pregnant..

Have you spoken to your parents and her parents? If you haven't then you seriously are not really to have a kid.
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By the time you get to your mid twenty's and everyone is going out and enjoying themselves, you have to stay in doors... I promise you it won't be very fun.


Firstly not everyone wants to go out, party and get drunk all the time!

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I would definitely recommend that you put yourself through university before you knock someone up.


Why can't he do that also? You don't know him or his family, you know nothing about him, making assumptions that he isn't going to go to university is really silly.


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Why would you want to bring a kid into the world when you only have a paltry laborers salary?


See above comment.

Stop making assumptions about people you do not know. Its as simple as that. No one has any right to judge what he has decided to do, its his life, full stop.
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Firstly not everyone wants to go out, party and get drunk all the time!


Why do you assume its to get drunk? The point is if you want to get away, go for a romantic meal out, go to to the cinema etc etc. All this is more difficult with a child in tow.

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Why can't he do that also? You don't know him or his family, you know nothing about him, making assumptions that he isn't going to go to university is really silly.


What is really really silly is you thinking he can do it just like that. You have a a kid, this means you cannot go to university and live on the campus. This limit's your choice to what you can commute to.

So if you do get into to university what will happen to the kid? One parent will have to stay home otherwise you have to get a baby sitter. That costs money, money which you will need a part time job to cover. A part-time job you will not have time to do because you have a kid to look after. Without one parent in full time employment it is incredibly difficult to go to university when you have a child.

Of course you could rely on your parents to take care of the kid. However have they retired? If so you will probably be living at home because you cannot generate enough income to get a place of your own. If you are putting this much of a burden on your parents you have to raise the question as to whether you are ready.

For university, you need time and money. A kid takes up a lot of time and an incredible amount of money.

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Stop making assumptions about people you do not know. Its as simple as that. No one has any right to judge what he has decided to do, its his life, full stop.


You stop thinking the world is candy coated, i gave my opinion. If he still wants a kid after what I have had to say then good luck to the boy. The point is that he is young himself and has plenty of options. A kid at that age does limit your options.

I know a girl who became pregnant at 17. This was more down to bad luck as opposed to planning. Still, she has done OK. Fortunately she has a stay at home mum that looks after the kid while she goes to university. However she doesn't live with her boyfriend. She hasn't got money or the time to go out where and when she wants to.

She loves her kid obviously and wouldn't change it but there is a niggling thought in her mind that perhaps her life would of different if it had come a long 5 years later.

I just think its important to not give a sugar coated impression of the world when there would definitely be difficult times ahead.. if he is in a good position the good on him and good luck. If he's not then at least he won't go into it blind.
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Actually although i am 16 and am still at collage i am still earning £350.00 a week And i know thats not a lot but for 16 its quite a lot.

Secondly i will still go to university but i would like a job as a firefighter and that only requires math and english G.C.S.E grades or an equivelent.

Also i would rather spend a night in with my girlfriend then go out, Yeah we will still go out, as we have two familes that are there to support us both. So we will be fine.
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Actually although i am 16 and am still at collage i am still earning £350.00 a week And i know thats not a lot but for 16 its quite a lot.

Secondly i will still go to university but i would like a job as a firefighter and that only requires math and english G.C.S.E grades or an equivelent.

Also i would rather spend a night in with my girlfriend then go out, Yeah we will still go out, as we have two familes that are there to support us both. So we will be fine.


...speaking of sugar coated impressions of the world.

I hope you're good with things in the future. I really do. I can't even imagine how big a burden having children is but can only imagine.

I wonder whether or not having read this topic you've been trying to ignore some of the advice provided and still wish to give this a "Happy ending"?

I don't think anyone here is trying to tell you what to do as it looks like you've made your decision already, but if you have any doubts at all then maybe this is the time to sort of confront them with your girlfriend.

As i say, best of luck with this in whatever you and your girfriend decide to do.
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I have only one question... Penguin... where do you live?
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England bogey ...
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£350.00
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England bogey ...
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£350.00


Sorry, I'm not good with monetary histories and such
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Welcome to the club penguin :) and congrats. we were quite awed by your age to be a father and doubly amazed on how mature your thinking is. Nevertheless, rearing a child is not a walk in a park experience dude, "you are needed most during your child's teen and adolescent years
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Just in case you need tips on how to deal babies effectively, most ozzu members are much willing to give you hints :) good luck
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Wow, congratulations to both Penguin and Jameson on expected offspring! :)

Babies are always a good thing I guess.....

And the world is a mystery, anything can happen... Different cultures have different approaches to how young is 'too young'...... and if there are two large families to give all the support, it can work out ok................

But heavens goodness gracious me, at sixteen I'd have been terrified of having a child.......... and now at 28, when I think how much I've changed since those years......... it's a whole lifetime.......... having children at an early age certainly entirely transforms the course of your life. that's not necessarily a bad thing of course.

either way - best of luck! no going back now... :)
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Actually i guess its true that i am trying to give this a happy ending, But all comments that have been made have been noted. And i see the good and bad points of having a baby at my age.
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Well all the best to you..

I was 23 when my only daughter was born.. I had a good marriage with a good man (or so I thought), a house to live in, and he was earning enough for me to stay at home. I was stupid enough to believe all the late nights working, and the weekend training events and conferences. Employers expect teenagers to have no ties and no commitments

18 months later I'm living in a cold drafty rented house in a poor area as a single parent trying to work, pay rent and pay for babysitters. In the end I gave up trying and accepted that for a while folding my business (there wasn't much left of it by then) and joining the dole queue as a single parent was realistically the only way to survive.
Sometimes you will have to make stark choices.. family or career. My parents were a lot older than me, both retired and my father was bedridden with cancer at that time so I had nobody to turn to for help.
I made it, but only just, and I still have a lot of regrets and things I wish I had been able to do instead of being tied down with a child. Now looking back on it all from 20 years on it still looks like a mistake. I wish I had put my business first and like my mother waited until I was older before starting a family. I haven't been away on holiday since I lived with my parents.. never got to go to university.. didn't get to enjoy my teenage years because I wasted my time making a home and being there for a man who wasn't, in the end, worth the effort. I learned one very important lesson.. A baby is for life.. it isn't a fashion accessory, and it doesn't make you "cool"..

Just commenting, but we had been together pretty solid from being 17.. an item since college.. People change a lot between 16 and 21. Now it may all seem great, working and earning lots of money.. but that is the now.. what about in maybe 2 years when your girlfriend has been stuck at home all day every day with a baby, and a man who is always at work.

As you aren't even legally an adult.. either of you.. the real world hasn't had chance to bite you on the ass yet.

Now that may seem a bit bleak, and I didn't want it to because I really wish you both the best of luck.. Just saying.. I don't think you have really thought this thing through properly. At the moment everything seems rosy with plenty of money.. but is there the security?
I'm the wrong side of 40 and run my own business for 12 years.. want a reality check? I can't guarantee anything further in the future than 8 weeks.. the business climate here in the North is so bad..

What am I saying. "don't count your chickens" .. my mothers favourite saying.. and wasn't she so right.

Good luck and best wishes, but most of all.. be very very sure this is exactly what you both want.
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Wow thats harsh. And can i just add my girlfriend is 19 she is an adult. But how are things now with you and your child?
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I know I'm going to regret this, but I can't let this go unanswered. :lol:

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Don't listen to anyone


Otherwise known as being ignorant.

If you want to trick yourself into believing it's a good thing fine, but don't encourage others to do it too like it's all peachy keen.
You know damn well you were complaining about somthing kid related every time I talked to you.
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A question to the following quote that may or may not make sense to the rest of you :shock:

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Does that include listening to you or not? :lol:
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I know I'm going to regret this, but I can't let this go unanswered. :lol:

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Otherwise known as being ignorant.

If you want to trick yourself into believing it's a good thing fine, but don't encourage others to do it too like it's all peachy keen.
You know damn well you were complaining about somthing kid related every time I talked to you.


Oh god get over yourself.

Don't pick my comment out and then say that *plum* to me.

I didn't mean it as in don't listen to anyones advice, I meant don't listen to the negatives because I HAVE been there, and the negatives, (from family) get VERY stressful. When did I say it was peachy keen, I know its not peachy keen to be a young parent, I was simply trying to bring to attention the POSITIVES of it, because there are many.

Sorry I had an opinion that was different from that of everyone elses! I didn't think I would get singled out because of it. Sheesh.
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England bogey ...
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£350.00


Kinda Ignorant in a way. Who said it had to be England, could may well have been Wales, Scotland or even Egyptian pound.

I guess now isn't the time to be trivial though.
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Okay SB, you win ... Sorry about that ...
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it doesnt matter the age of the person its always going to be a challenge no matter how old you are... and especially the first child is always going to be trial and error but that is life. You only learn by making mistakes...

As for joebert's comment, until you are a parent you shouldnt be making such comments as you have not experienced anything with regards to your own children.
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Think on two things.

Children are always yours.
When your friends want to hang out, even couples, you will have a kid, crying or needing to go to bed at 9. Bowling, Basketball, Movies, everything will require a sitter, or bringing them along.

We had our first at 18/22 after we were married, but we "lost" our friends. Sure they still talked but it wasn't the same. They could just up and go do stuff, we could not.

That will not change regardless of who you are unless you have a live-in nanny. Statistics about age/divorce aside, the 18-24 is very uncertain about where to live, career, etc. While your friends can up and go to Florida to a sweet job, you might not.

You will be "bound" by a child.


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You will teach by example.
No matter what you say they learn by your actions and will imitate them.

At 3-5 you will see their personality really develople, what they do when they get mad, how they react in crowds, etc.

At that time you will be 20ish. Make sure you aren't going to act "normal" for your age.

Maturity is learned by experience. How can you compensate? Good luck.
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Congratulations on your impending fatherhood Penquin. I hope all goes well for a safe and healthy pregnancy for your partner.
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Thank you musik and so do I.
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Wow 16 is really young. You will need all the luck you can get, and a six figure salary.

I had known a girl once that had a kid at 16, and she swore up and down she wanted it. I told her to get 'rid' of it but nooooo she wanted it.

One year later I met up with her again, and she was living in a feces laden, roach infested house with holes where windows should be. She totally regretted it.

But as long as you know the road ahead is tough, you can toughen yourself up to match it. Having a kid is a great sacrifice - no career, no vacation, no time to yourself. But stick with it, it will be a bumpy ride.
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yes, I am looking forward to the challenges ahead.
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My own parents had me when they were teenagers, and they've done just fine (although admittedly things were really rough in the first few years, but they managed to pull us through eventually.......)

Just my 2c.

What's done is done. May as well be happy. It's a baby after all.

Good luck, dude.
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Hey Penguin, welcome to the club of fatherhood.

Even though it is stressful to raise a child, especially at a young age, sometimes the children part is the easy part.

I'm having a really hard time with my parents right now, it has gotten to the point that all communication has been cut off. It sucks, but has to be done.

Just remember one thing, Always love and support your wife, no matter what, and even though the baby is important, your relationship with your wife is first! This is one of the keys of having a happy and successful marriage, no matter what the age. The other key I could give you, but it's religious in nature and most people don't want to hear it ;)

If you ever need someone to talk to, or some advice from a fellow new-dad (Malikai turns 1 this month!), let me know.
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Thanks master z, and yes it is important that our relationship works, and at the moment its not going 100% great so i hope we can sort it out.
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Hey I think you are very young for this.... but anyways congrats for your new baby....and please take care of your girlfriends health.
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Thanks master z, and yes it is important that our relationship works, and at the moment its not going 100% great so i hope we can sort it out.


Haahahahaaha ah hah ah ahhaahah hah a. Oh boy this is great. 16 year old with a kid, and it's not going great within first 18 minutes.

Ok, I have to let it out. If you think you are ready for a kid, at 16, and you think it's a mature thing to do you are just flat out stupid. Drag her to the abortion clinic and crank up that vaccume. Lie about the conception date if you have to.

But I bet you won't. You are not mature enough for that.

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...and at the moment its not going 100% great so i hope we can sort it out.


...hahaah ah ahhaahahhaahaha (haaghhahah hah ha hhaa)
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Damn.
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camperjohn ... you freak me out dude ... seriously ...
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camperjohn ... you freak me out dude ... seriously ...

You would be surprised at how often I get that ... seriously ... almost daily ...

I was going to say "A coat hanger is a cheaper than 3 years of diapers" but I didn't want to cross the line. ;-)
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Drag her to the abortion clinic and crank up that vaccume. Lie about the conception date if you have to.


I seriously think some people forget there are over 30,000 members on this forum, you are entitled to your opinion, but abortion is a sensitive subject, and being so arrogant and insensitive about it is wrong.

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But I bet you won't. You are not mature enough for that.


Maybe not, but it shows your mentality posting *plum* like that.

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I was going to say "A coat hanger is a cheaper than 3 years of diapers" but I didn't want to cross the line.


Too bad if a member went through this, again another stupid comment.

I don't know what the point or need was for these posts?

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...hahaah ah ahhaahahhaahaha (haaghhahah hah ha hhaa)


Yes because a child being born into a broken home is so hilarious.

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camperjohn - that really was unkind. to each his own opinion and all that, and I'm the last person to preach PC to anyone. but jesus this is someone's life situation you're talking about. show a flake of taste. Oh and in case you think pretending to be a psychopath makes you seem cool, get over yourself. it's been done to death.

penguin - reading your entry in the 'holidays' thread gives me a hint as to where you've found the sense of security and confidence to go into the whole 'raising a family at the age of 16' thing to begin with.... I still think it's a big risk but hey, everyone's told you that already. and the fact that things aren't going particularly well at a certain time doesn't mean anything in the grand scheme of things, if you've already decided on 'forever'. You just keep trying until you make it work....
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Having a child at any time in your life can be very scary, let alone at 16 years old. I have a friend who has 2 children and she is 19, she always feels that she never had a "childhood" so to speak, and she regrets having children so young, she said she wished she had been abit older before making a decision like that. That being said though, she loves her kids with all her heart and does the best she can for them, Just like any sane parent would. She is a Nurses assistant and is studying to become a social worker. But its not something to take lightly, my previous post said to keep positive and that still remains, BUT also on the otherhand, parenting is hard at the best of times, but when you really are still a baby yourself, its alot harder.

I was 19 when my first baby was born, and 22 when my second baby was born, the only regret I have about having them is it is alot harder for me to go out and work full time and earn as much money as I am capable of, because I do not have the family support network, some people have. I don't have parents to look after them if need be, I have to rely on daycare, which costs a mint. I also don't get a moment to myself, I have kids running around all day everyday, messing up the house, screaming, crying, fighting, hitting each other etc. The only time I get to myself is when they are asleep, and I spend that time cleaning up their mess, and working on my freelance projects. So its very stressful here. If I didn't have an ignore button, I would have lost my mind long ago :lol:.

So you see having kids can be good, but they are for life.
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camperjohn - that really was unkind.....

I wasn't trying to be nice I was just telling the truth. Let's face it this kids' life it screwed, as well as his kid. You go ahead and sugar coat it and be all nicey nicey "oh so beautiful you're having a baby and you upholding the statistics of stupid adolecent trailor trash". I am just spewing out the truth. Bitter pill isn't it?

And yes, it is funny to laugh at stupid people. This child needs a kick in the ass. No thanks to you for that though.
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Hard times will befall penguin, camperjohn, that's for sure and that has being mentioned here.

I agree with some of what you said camperjohn, but not with all. If he feels to upkeep the statistics of how many teens become adults at about 16 years old it is totally up to him and whatever he brings on himself, that is his choice.

If I was not going 100% well with my girlfriend I wouldn't be having a baby since a baby is supposed to be raised by both parents, and before marriage? In some religions (Like Christianity) that is believed as a sin but it is not to me to judge so I would not talk about religions here.

Also, if the relationship with a girlfriend is not 100% ok, make sure the baby doesn't see the parents (Penguin and your girlfriend) bickering or fighting about anything... sort it out before the baby comes... don't ruin the baby's life emotionally...

Just a couple of friendly cents from me... don't take it seriously if you don't want to... just to make you or someone think... it's a huge HUGE responsibility... and it might bring a lot of worries to you, especially if the baby's health goes wacko... but I'm sure that your parents would help you out since they back you up.

Congratulations on your baby and good luck on your decision...
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camperjohn - that really was unkind.....

I wasn't trying to be nice I was just telling the truth. Let's face it this kids' life it screwed, as well as his kid. You go ahead and sugar coat it and be all nicey nicey "oh so beautiful you're having a baby and you upholding the statistics of stupid adolecent trailor trash". I am just spewing out the truth. Bitter pill isn't it?

And yes, it is funny to laugh at stupid people. This child needs a kick in the ass. No thanks to you for that though.


yeah you might have been telling the truth, but there is a difference between being forward, and respectful and just being an outright rude pr**k! Sorry just telling the truth you know, wouldn't wanna sugarcoat it for ya.
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yes that's the thing - sometimes you have to 'try to be nice', at least a little bit. civilised communication demands it. otherwise every time we have different views we'd just be shouting expletives at each other.

'sides, he's hardly trailer trash - obviously his family is very well off and has promised its full support. you don't know everything about this kid's life - none of us do. I'm 28 and I still don't have children - because I'm not sure I can handle the commitment and responsibility yet. but we're not all the same.
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Can i just say, Although i am 16, i can act and am very mature for my age. How could you say get an abortion dude that upset me becuase this child means a lot to me and my girlfriend. And my life is not screwed, I have a job and have good grades in my exams.

And yes my family do have a lot of money but i cant always ask them as they will not always be there.

camerjohn: It seems like you show that you are not mature by your above posts, Iff you dont like it thats fine. A little word called respect would go a long way though dude.
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camerjohn: It seems like you show that you are not mature by your above posts, Iff you dont like it thats fine. A little word called respect would go a long way though dude.

Pwnd!
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Yes Pwnd! Lol. To be honest i dont want to start a thread war, But i thought that this needed to be said.
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Thanks master z, and yes it is important that our relationship works, and at the moment its not going 100% great so i hope we can sort it out.


Haahahahaaha ah hah ah ahhaahah hah a. Oh boy this is great. 16 year old with a kid, and it's not going great within first 18 minutes.

Ok, I have to let it out. If you think you are ready for a kid, at 16, and you think it's a mature thing to do you are just flat out stupid. Drag her to the abortion clinic and crank up that vaccume. Lie about the conception date if you have to.

But I bet you won't. You are not mature enough for that.

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...and at the moment its not going 100% great so i hope we can sort it out.


...hahaah ah ahhaahahhaahaha (haaghhahah hah ha hhaa)


no matter what is going on, murdering a baby is NEVER the option!
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No it is not, and things are fine now. It was just something stupid that was blown out of scale. Things are fine. But still johns comments shocked me!
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penguin wrote:
Thanks master z, and yes it is important that our relationship works, and at the moment its not going 100% great so i hope we can sort it out.


Haahahahaaha ah hah ah ahhaahah hah a. Oh boy this is great. 16 year old with a kid, and it's not going great within first 18 minutes.

Ok, I have to let it out. If you think you are ready for a kid, at 16, and you think it's a mature thing to do you are just flat out stupid. Drag her to the abortion clinic and crank up that vaccume. Lie about the conception date if you have to.

But I bet you won't. You are not mature enough for that.

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...and at the moment its not going 100% great so i hope we can sort it out.


...hahaah ah ahhaahahhaahaha (haaghhahah hah ha hhaa)


no matter what is going on, murdering a baby is NEVER the option!


yes fully agreed
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no matter what is going on, murdering a baby is NEVER the option!


Yes it is an option. Is it one we like to speak about out loud? No, but as it stands it is still an option.
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Please do not start the abortion debate on Ozzu! It always gets ugly and people blow everything out of proportion, people end up pissed off for no reason, and yeah.
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no matter what is going on, murdering a baby is NEVER the option!


Yes it is an option. Is it one we like to speak about out loud? No, but as it stands it is still an option.

yes it is an option.
In this world everything is possible.

but it doesn't mean that, we will kill baby, just for the possibility.
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no matter what is going on, murdering a baby is NEVER the option!

Yes it is an option. Is it one we like to speak about out loud? No, but as it stands it is still an option.

It is definatly and option - up until age 30. ;-)

But abortion is a different thread - waste of time.
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This for some reason reminds me of that Southpark episode where Cartman's mom starts looking into the possibility of aborting him..... took them a while to explain to her it's a little harder to do an abortion when your child is already 8 years old.... oh how I love the shameless un-PC-ness of Southpark.............
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I must say, although you might be a great dad, do you really want to raise a child, when you yourself is still in the "YES I AM A PENGUIN!!!" stage of your life?
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I must say, although you might be a great dad, do you really want to raise a child, when you yourself is still in the "YES I AM A PENGUIN!!!" stage of your life?

lol ... that's how I know I am faaarr from that step ... mine says "All your base are belong to us" ... in leet
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The yes i am a penguin is a joke, Iff you think that this comment makes me a unsuitable dad then i will change it.
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Well, if you planned it then your off to a better start than I was. I have 4, not a one was planned. Children are a blessing but if fatherhood was easy there would be no child support laws. I am both happy for you and sad because you chose to end your childhood so early. No more fun and games, your going to have to be a man now. Concrats and good luck.
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Good luck to you, sir! You'll never love anyone like your own children.
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Thanks guys
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The yes i am a penguin is a joke

That only a 16 year old would find funny...

Forget it, I'm with you man. Good luck!
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The yes i am a penguin is a joke

That only a 16 year old would find funny...

Forget it, I'm with you man. Good luck!


god get over yourself, Do not make me sound like a am stupid or any less of a person than you are becuase of may age. Age does not matter all of the time.
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You miss understand me. I am not trying to make you stupid. Don't worry, I won't try and push my point.

I am one who truly believes: age is not a criteria for maturity.
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Ok, mabye i miss understood you, i am sorry for my reaction as i am used to many people telling me that i am not mature enough to take on the role of a dad, Feel free to push your point.
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I can't help but wonder -- http://www.people.com/people/article/0, ... 59,00.html
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I can't help but wonder -- http://www.people.com/people/article/0, ... 59,00.html


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Longtime? She's 16! Did they start dating in nursery school?
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:lol: Kinda makes me wonder what a long time is for a 16yo too..

// She looks identical to Britney, sure this isn't a publicity stunt LOL!
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:lol: Kinda makes me wonder what a long time is for a 16yo too..


The same as any other person!
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:lol: Kinda makes me wonder what a long time is for a 16yo too..


The same as any other person!


Sorry to disagree and I am not talking down to you, but I started dating my wife before you and Ms. Spears were born. At 16, I had no concept of what a life-long commitment was. Even when I got married, at 21, I had no idea. Now, at 39, I'm only starting to realize. ;)

//I'm perfectly willing to give you and yours the benefit of the doubt, but to be successful at your age, you both have to be extraordinary in your commitment to beat the odds.
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Thinking about what you said DM your right, I just take each day that it comes and try to solve any challenges that come my way. :)
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Thinking about what you said DM your right, I just take each day that it comes and try to solve any challenges that come my way. :)


Right on! :thumbsup:
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oooh man! you don't know how much I agree with that dM. At my 40's I know a thousand teenagers who destroyed their life either by getting married or having a child at that age. *sigh

But that's the beauty of the freedom God gave us, we have to learn by ourselves.
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joebert wrote:
I can't help but wonder -- http://www.people.com/people/article/0, ... 59,00.html


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...and the father is Jamie Lynn's longtime boyfriend Casey Aldridge.


Longtime? She's 16! Did they start dating in nursery school?

Hahaha :lol:

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