My thoughts

hehe, well. She asked me, but frankly I got other plans with some mates.
I can not bail out of those plans.
Yes, I am 17, but I am a 17 year old boy in love, and I can still be as much heartbroken as a grown up can be.

Then if you both agreed to an open relationship, seeing other people, means sleeping with other people too. So therefore she can't technically Cheat on you cos you both agreed on it, so you need to let her to do what she does at these parties and not question her later.
Maybe if you feel you want her to stop you need to talk to her about changing into an exclusive relationship. YOU and HER ONLY not anyone else!

I can't handle being in open relationships because I get way to jealous of other girls being with my man and the way I see it is if he likes/loves me enough, he shouldn't need or want anyone else but me!!

Miss bee it was a semantic error I believe

Another thing....I'd rather be with my guy then my mates more. My rule is this:

If I have plans with my friends they stay as is..
If I have plans with my guy they stay as is...
You don't change plans with your girl to hang with mates and vise versa. But if your in a relationship and your're trying to build a strong base, then you need to think about being with your partner more then your mates because its your partner who you'll marry and have kids with later on, not your mates!

Then again your only 17 but just think about these things ok, its only advice from us OLDIES who have been there

LOL maybe, I might leave this convo now before I start becoming WAYYYYYYYYY too pedantic!!

Good luck matey!

You have gotten my all wrong. We do not have a open realtionship..
NO way I would agree of something like that, nor would she.
This relationship is as private as it can be. She is only allowed to kiss me, flirt with me, love me. And same goes for me ! Call me selfish.

Not selfish, smart thinker!!

I am.. First of all, I am being with my mates like 1 time each week. The rest of my sparetime I am spending with my girlfriend. I have been with there 5 days in a row now and today is the only day I have not spent with her this week. I have also made plans with her tomorrow.
So I would say I am prioritizing my girlfriend before anything else in my life

Thats great to hear but I wasn't implying anything just saying what I do n giving my advice cos thats what you wanted wasn't it???

I did not think you were implying, but I felt you were trying to indicate that I might was a guy who spent more time with my mates then my girlfriend.

And again, thanks for the advice. Offcourse I want you advice.

Nah nah wasn't that at all sorry if I made you think that....MY BAD

Puppy Love.

Your 17 ?, you should be thinking about turning 21 and strip joints, not long term relationships

LOL Joebert!!!

Honestly, if u cant trust her for any reasons I would just take my concerns up with her.

Not to be an ass or anything... but someone's got to play devil's advocate, and well... look at my photo (that really is me, by the way... heh, funny what enough photoshop tweaking can do...)

Anyway.

Why can't you find the time to go with her? If you're that worried, you should go with her, not to protect her from herself (well, maybe a little), but to just be there. Maybe she'd go out less if you were willing to spend more time with her. It could be she's going out so much because she's bored and needs something more. I'm sorry to be cruel about it, but sometimes it's not always the other person's fault, at least not entirely. The fact is, if you're worried, you need to talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel. If she cares about you, like you apparently care about her, she'll be happy to talk through this.

Just remember, the thing about love is you're gonna have to stretch at least as much as you demand the other person stretch, or its only a matter of time before your relationship will fall apart.


By the way, before anyone starts... here was my age 17 schedule pretty much every week. I fully understand what it means to be busy. I too had girlfriends thrown into the mix, and no relationship lasted less than 3 months, amazingly enough (in fact, I've never in my life had a relationship last for less than that...)


School: way too early - 4:05 PM
Lacrosse practice: 4:30 - 6 PM. (spring time only)
Work: 7:00 - 10:00 PM - (spring)
Work: 5:00 - 10:00 PM (off season)
Homework: 1 or 2 hours, or until I fell asleep, usually about an hour.

But then, I had the weekends off. I usually studied at the library or in the park on sundays for a few hours (depending on the weather), and usually worked out for at least a couple hours saturdays, and Lacrosse games were always on Saturdays too... and on the offseason, I usually worked a shift in the early afternoon, but otherwise, Saturday night was party night, and since I busted my ass all week and always got good grades, my parents were very lienient about it... the only rule was "don't do anything stupid" which I've always respected and lived by, and hope my children will be smart enough to do the same...

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