My thoughts

Hey ! I am feeling for sharing some of mye toughts and sorrows.

I have some problems, I belive I am worring to much.
I have had this girlfriend for 6 months, and it works fine, but each time she is going to a party(without me, cause I cant find the time to tag along) I am worring sick. I can not seem to find it for sure that she won`t do anything foolish while drinking. I know what alcohol can do. I am so afraid of loosing her over some dumb party, but I know I never could forgive her if she would be unfaithfull to me.
I know she loves me, and she keeps repeating she never would cheat on me.

I know you all have felt jealous sometime.
Do you got any advice about how I can become less jealous.
Stuff that can help me..

Thanks!

How old r u? Just curious cos I've been in your situation!

I am 17. Same goes for my girlfriend.

LOL same age as when I felt as insecure as you!

I used to chase my guy down all the time if he went somewhere without me, 100s of calls every minute, unstoppable questions ra ra ra.

If you don't feel you can trust her then its more then likely that she's hiding something from you. Definetely a big NO NO in a relationship.
Talk to her about how you feel, hear how she feels.
Make time to be together, but don't smother her.
Test yourself for a few weeks. When shes out, turn your phone off and DO NOT turn it back on. Occupy yourself with something that will keep you super busy so you have no time to wonder what she's up to. If she loves you enough, alcohol or no alcohol she will be faithful to you.

If you still feel the same after a month then you aren't meant to be together. My ex and I split up and in the end he chased me for months, by the that time I was in another beautiful relationship where my guy was totally devoted to me and refused to go anywhere without me. If I had plans or work, he stayed in and we had a beautiful child together.
Although that relationship came to sad end, I know deep in my heart I feel at ease with my past relationship now and look back at myself to be a silly immature child for being so obsessive (no offense).
I'm 23 now and look forward to my next relationship, but relationships are about TRUST, give and take and time out from each other.

Give her some space and who knows where you will be in a year. You can't choose your destiny, its already chosen for you!!

Relationships and love hurt but you don't go looking for love cos love will find you, its just a matter of time!!

Good luck!!

dude,

all you can do is trust her....if you cant trust her, you dont need to be with her....

the most important thing i have ever learned is to talk to her about what you feel...otherwise it will eat you alive and you will wind up getting dating advice from a webforum.....

17.....damn......where does the time go....i can almost remember that age....

Hahahahaha now I feel like a love doctor!!

then i may be getting a cold.....

LOL why??

Thanks ! Well, we got a open relationship and we do talk about this issue all the time. I am not stocking her like you did, nor calling her all the time. I agree that relationships is about trust, ill try my best to trust her from now on.

You should never let fear be the driving force in your life. You say you know she loves you, and you obviously love her. Everything is good at the moment. Tomorrow you could get run down by a car, you could get some horrible disease. You cannot always worry about things that might maybe possibly go wrong - there are just too many things!

If I were to worry everyday about being hit by a car, it does not make that car less likely to come, and if (and I hope it does not) one day it does, I will be no better off if I have spent all the time previously being scared.

All that can come of your fear is to push her away. If she thinks you are accusing her (and believe me fear can be misinterpreted this way), this will only be detrimental to your relationship.

I know that this does not help you stop worrying, but it might explain why not worrying is so important

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Agree.. Thanks.

Right on rtm!!

And Socno do you know what the actual classification for an OPEN relationship is?? Cos I don't think you really do!

not to mention man you are 17.....

you got your whole life there man.....the less you worry about what she is doing, chances are the more she will be into you....wierd but true


you know how you always want the things you can have but dont really give a crap about what you do have..... it works for girls too my friend..... too much stressing and you can kiss her goodbye...go with her to the party...thats the easiest answer

Never tought of it that way.. Smart way of thinking.
YEs, I really love this girl, I am willing to do everything for her, and I am not ready for loosing her.

Hehe, I know.. You can see other people..

I ment we got a relationship where we can talk about everything and nothing